Chances are you want your husband back, even if he left the toilet seat up a number of times, mostly because the other people you encounter lack any kind of interesting spark and he was a pretty good husband. Your next step at this point is to take steps to get your ex husband back.
What you will need to do first is come to terms with what caused the breakup to begin with. Who had the actions that lead to the separation or divorce, was it you or him?
If it was his fault for the breakup, then the actions are apparently not unforgivable, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking to reconcile with him.
However, if you were to blame, how likely is it that he will show you forgiveness. How solid was your relationship before you broke up? What were the best things that you shared, and in comparison what were the lowest points?
Has there been enough time since the acts that were committed so that you can easily be forgiven? After all, the more time that is there the better chance there is the wounds have healed.
Should there be any children from this marriage, you must consider them as well. If they want their father back in their life, you might want to have them help you get your ex husband back too.
Just be cautious when you use your children, as it might look like you are trying to weasel him back into your life.
Should you be speaking with your ex-husband, you should find a nice quiet place to talk with him. Avoid noisy settings like a bar or busy restaurant. If possible, consider a location that has great memories attached with it for both of you.
You can approach this meeting as something that is important that will affect both individuals. One that cannot be handled over the phone, instead it should be discussed in person.
Know what you are going to say beforehand. Take the time to create an outline so that you can present the information more effectively. This is in a way a business meeting and you want him to be impressed. Practice and study your lines so that you are stilted when you speak with him.
During this time make certain you cover all the reasons you want him back in your life. You might try a trial period or just a few dates. If he is the reason you split up, be sure you forgiveness, and if you were the reason, ask for his forgiveness.
Should he accept your offer, then you are halfway to getting back together. This will show he has no issues meeting with you and discussing things with you. If he resents the divorce, there will be a chance he won’t accept you offer at all.
Avoid doing anything that appears like you are begging, pleading or playing into his sympathies. This is a turn off for most people and you will find it harder to win back your ex-husband.
If this meeting doesn’t work, you can try to have a third part to step in. Often a mutual friend is a great place to start.
Another good idea is talking with his relatives as they can help you get him back. They might be able to persuade with him listening to your proposal.
Do all that you can and keep both your best interests at heart if you want to reconnect with your lost love and get your ex husband back.
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